5 things I learned in a cigar lounge — Blue in Green Journal

In a time long before cellphones and social media men would gather together in private clubs to exchange ideas, socialize and unwind. Cigar lounges in part are vestiges to these traditional gentlemen's club, although not exclusive to men and not always restricted to members only, serve as a safe haven where men can still be men. Throughout the years I have frequented many different establishments and have learned quite a few things, that I felt it necessary to put together a comprehensive list for those interested in venturing into the world of cigar smokers. Cigar lounges are always a tight knit community and to newcomers can seem somewhat exclusionary but given time can become a home away from home.

The art of conversation has seemingly fallen to the wayside with the advent of technology, people are opting for texting as their primary mode of communication but cigar lounges are designed to have patrons sitting in close proximity, promoting dialogue amongst each other. Feel free to introduce yourself to the other patrons and gradually join the conversation. Be mindful not to intrude on any personal conversations or be overly opinionated. You may not always agree with other people's opinions but speaking over them and trying to dominate the conversation does not make you right. There is so much you can learn by conversing with other people, just remember to leave the bs and the thin skin at the door.

Cigar etiquette changes depending on who you ask but some things are taboo no matter where you go. Under no circumstances should you bring cigars purchased elsewhere to a cigar lounge, I see this all the time and I'm really not in agreement. You smoke cigars because you enjoy the taste and you don't want anyone ruining it with a flavored cigar. Some cigar lounges outright prohibit flavored cigars and some don't but to be on the safe side leave the flavored stuff alone. Another thing guaranteed to ruin your cigar experience is someone talking loudly on the phone in the middle of the lounge. I know I did encourage conversations before just not over the phone so if your call takes longer than a minute try excusing yourself.

Your word is everything when introducing yourself to new social circles and once tarnished it will follow you around forever. In a new environment no one has any expectations of you, so if you give your word be sure to stand and deliver.

Knowing your way around food while in a cigar lounge is a definite must. The second most discussed topic in lounges, after cigars of course, is food. My first taste of fine dining was largely due to recommendations from friends at the cigar lounge. Food is what brings people together and it is not only limited to making reservations at a restaurant, learn how to cook and be adventurous when trying new foods.

The importance of friendships is something you'll learn to appreciate in the cigar lounge. I have been blessed to create lifelong bonds with some amazing people, some of who are like family to me. I have met people from all walks of life and have learned a great deal from them, as I hope they have from me.